Sometimes we women will give men the benefit of the doubt and trust their words way too soon — even before the guy makes good on that word.
One thing I have learned (the hard way) is that a person’s word means little to nothing without action behind it. You can’t count on words.
A Man’s Word Vs. His Actions
It’s all about action. What does he do? You have to watch his actions.
How many women have children by men who *said* that they want to be a good father or husband, but then the guy leaves as soon as the child is born? So many we can’t even count anymore.
If a man was serious about being a good provider, he would go out of his way to promote himself to a position where he can take care of his family. If he’s still sitting on your couch watching television or playing video games, that’s the truth about his intentions for you.
How many men *tell* women how special they are, only to quickly lose interest right after they have sex?
If he really thinks you’re special, he’ll do anything to be in your presence. He’ll go out of his way to impress you and capture your attention.
How many women lose themselves “in love” with a man who claims to love them back, only to find out that he’s cheating with not one but many other women. That’s not love. That’s selfishness.
As Janet Jackson said in her classic song — what have you DONE for me lately?
The words he says mean nothing until there’s real action to back them up.
A man who is really interested in you will SHOW you that he wants to be in your life, not just woo you with words.
Think about this the next time you’re debating whether or not you should give up a part of yourself, your serenity, your peace, or your heart to someone you’ve just met. Are his actions backing up his words?
Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.