Wouldn’t it be nice if life could just be easier? Even just a little bit easier? You wake up, shower, wash your face, commence to doing your thing whatever that may be, and things seem to work out in the best way possible throughout the day.
Well I think that life could be easier, but we stand in the way of that in so many ways. We’ve been taught that things are supposed to be hard and a constant struggle. But that’s just not true. Things can be more easygoing if we believe it to be so.
Consider these five simple things that can make your life feel easier and more enjoyable.
1. Don’t Go Looking for Problems
Some people create their own problems by actively going out into the world looking for them.
Have you ever known someone who seems to carry drama around with them like an anchor? No matter where they go there seems to be a conflict that arises or an argument.
Are you that person? If so, it is okay to admit it, because this is about growth, and coming to terms with an issue is the only way that you can begin to grow and get better.
Some people go out into the world looking for problems. They want to fight with people because that’s what they’re used to doing. Any period of peace makes them feel uneasy.
I believe that denial and tendency toward aggravation is something that people pick up when they are children, watching their parents and the elders around them do the same thing. Then they perpetuate the same thing in their adulthood. Then they unfortunately pass it on to their children and the cycle goes on and on.
Be the strong smart, enlightened, unproblematic person who stops this cycle in your family.
2. Design Your Life Exactly How You Want It To Be
Not how others want it to be.
When I made the wild decision to become a freelance writer a lot of people looked at me like I was crazy.
“Why can’t you just go get a regular job?” they asked.
“Because this is how I want my life to be,” I thought. And while I did take jobs that I didn’t want or like over the years, I still stayed focused on the things that I wanted to do. Thankful that I did that.
Follow your passions and dreams. Yet I want to say this with one caveat: you can’t have this attitude if you are going to spend years or even months begging people to help you to pay your bills to get through life.
To be a struggling artist or entrepreneur means that you are going to go through a period when you might have to struggle a bit, yet others shouldn’t have to suffer because of your conscious decisions to do so. I continued to work menial jobs while doing my thing on the side, while keeping a vision of how I wanted my life (at least professionally) to look until it began to manifest. Have a plan to support yourself as you discover and maximize from your talents.
3. Resist People Who Try to Force You Into Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do
Peer pressure is a b****. I say this all the time when I watch television shows or movies and see how young people find themselves in unfortunate situations simply because they follow behind what their friends and peers tell them to do. Don’t be a lemming (blind follower). Follow your own voice and your own calling in life and the earlier you learn how to do this, the better.
Another way that people try to force you into doing things that you don’t want to do is by pressuring you to pair up with someone who you aren’t really compatible with. I believe that one of the worst things you can do is commit your life to someone who you really should not be with. Pairing with the wrong person can rob you of your motivations, dreams, and positive energy in so many ways.
4. Eat Well and Exercise Daily
When in the grips of grief and depression, one of the things that helped me the most was getting outside and being active.my thing is walking, preferably in nature. I’m not a big fan of the gym or weight lifting, or running, but I really like to be outside—no matter the weather.
Exercising regularly also inspired me to want to eat better foods and I even tried going vegan for a while. One of the things that will make your life a lot easier is when you find a routine and diet that helps you stay sane and makes you feel healthy / happy / good.
5. Spend Time with Yourself in Solitude and Learn to Like Her
A lot of people don’t really like themselves, but they would never admit it outright. The reason why so many people are terrified of being alone is because they just don’t like being alone with themselves.
I spent too much time feeling down about the fact that the people in my life did not come to my rescue when I really needed them to. But after a while (and it took some time) I stopped needing them to do so! I learned how to enjoy time to myself, love myself, and it has come to the point where I actually prefer being just with myself. I plan trips by myself, go to the movies by myself, eat at restaurants alone, and love it. I don’t have to wait on anyone else to have a good time.
Can life feel and be easier? I think that life could be a lot easier if only we make a few changes and adjustments to how we look at and manage things. Meditate on these simple ways to make your life easier and see if they have a positive effect on your daily routine.
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Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.