As women we have visions of sugarplums dancing in our heads when it comes to what we want from a man. What do we want from a relationship? Everything!
He has to be kind.
He has to look good.
He has to make you happy.
He has to care about you.
He has to listen to your needs.
He has to be protective of you.
He has to shower you with loads of love and attention.
And that’s what you SHOULD ask for from a relationship but there’s a a question you have to ask yourself…
Do you even give those things to YOURSELF?
If you don’t even find your own self worthy of giving kindness, happiness, caring and love, how can you reasonably expect someone else to?
It’s easy to demand these things from another person, but not always so easy to demand it from yourself.
That’s at the root of why a lot of people just can’t seem to find a healthy, long lasting and respect-filled relationship with another person.
How do you regard and treat yourself on an every day basis?
Treating Yourself Right
When was the last time you went to a spa and had a good massage? Your nails done? A good vacation? Ate a good healthy meal to treat your body right? Read a good book that stimulated your mind?
You deserve proper care, attention and love — you can get it RIGHT NOW from yourself.
You need to treat yourself as well as you want other people to treat you. Refuse to accept anything less than the best treatment and attention to your needs, then watch how the world starts to open up to give it to you.
In other words, treat yourself the way that you want to be treated by men and the world in general.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.