Women & dating advice — can we take some cues from our feline friends?
I am a pet lover — I’ve had both dogs and cats. But I’m partial to cats because I think they are the most like humans. They’re smart, crafty and have a wide range of emotions. So here’s why I say that as a woman when you’re dating men you should be more “cat-like.”
Cats move at their own pace. They don’t do anything that they don’t want to do.
If you tell a cat to do something or try to train her, she’ll look at you curiously as if you’ve lost your mind. If she does decide to do what you’ve asked, it will be at her own leisure — when and if she wants to.
Puppies are loyal no matter what. Cats are loyal too, but not to the extent of a dog. If you mistreat a cat she will remember it and you will probably regret it!
Also, cats are usually very independent — they groom themselves meticulously and take care of their own “business.” A cat is fine being away from her owner for a long period of time — as long as she has food and water she’ll entertain herself or play with her cat friend. She’s not in need of that much attention to be okay. She’s not afraid of making you upset with her — you will just have to deal. If someone or something threatens a cat, she will attack back ferociously with her claws and teeth.
A cat can be “tamed” but only if you’re willing to spend a lot of time and TLC with her. She has to know that she can trust you before extending you that level of respect.
Cats seem to know that they are regal. They carry themselves with an air of confidence that says “yea, I know I’m the ishhh.” They strut around, relaxed and unbothered. They like to be in high places so that they can have a command over the room and see everything that’s going on.
In exchange, cats are loved and adored by their owners. Many owners even say that the cat owns them.
So I think there’s a lesson to be learned from cats — be relaxed, confident and unafraid to “bite back” if necessary. Live on your own terms. Don’t rely on anyone else to keep you content. You deserve love and the very best treatment from whoever you choose to allow in your life.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.