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Women & Dating Advice: A Lesson from Our Cat Friends

Women & Dating Advice: A Lesson from Our Cat Friends

Women & dating advice — can we take some cues from our feline friends? I am a pet lover — I’ve had both dogs and cats. But I’m partial to cats because I think they are the most like humans. They’re smart, crafty and have […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Dating Advice: Beware of “The Shift”

Dating Advice: Beware of “The Shift”

After much coaxing from others, I have started watching Dexter. It’s a TV series about a guy who serial kills bad guys. In it, his sister falls for a guy who turns out to be a very twisted killer. At first, he is very into […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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But I’m a Great Woman! Why Doesn’t He See That?

But I’m a Great Woman! Why Doesn’t He See That?

So you believed you had such a great connection with the guy you were seeing that on the first or second date you decided to sleep with him. You just KNEW that he was going to want to stay in touch and keep building with you, because you were getting along so well.

But then days and weeks went by and he wasn’t calling or texting you anymore. Soon enough you realized that the “chase” was off and the tables turned. Now you’re feeling like you need to do some chasing.

Deep inside your mind you’re thinking, “doesn’t he know how great I am! It’s his loss!”

And all of that may be true. You might be the best catch a man could ever dream of — a beautiful, patient, understanding and supportive beautiful woman who would make the perfect wife or girlfriend…

But he doesn’t know that. Certainly not after a date or two.

You know that you’re a really great person, but all he knows is that you look nice in a dress and heels. He’s still a stranger after one, two or even three dates. That’s why it’s so important that you allow plenty of time to get to know a guy (and for him to get to know you) before you sleep with him. Getting you into bed is his main aim in dating you (at least at first) so the quicker he achieves that the quicker he can move onto his next “conquest.”

Think about it — you’ve known some of your family members and so-called friends for decades and they still don’t know how great of a person you are, right!? So why would you assume that a guy you just met a few weeks ago would be able to recognize your awesome and unique qualities?

You ARE great — no doubt about that. But if you want to be both loved AND respected for the awesome person you are, don’t trust someone you just met with your heart and your body.

Take your time love, there is no rush.

Love Lynn

 

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Dating & Relationships: How Do You Know That It’s Real?

Dating & Relationships: How Do You Know That It’s Real?

According to the U.S. Census Bureau as of 2012, 112 million Americans over the age of 18 are unmarried. That number makes up almost half of the adult population. In years past, you were expected to have a quality long-term relationship and eventually a marriage […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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It Doesn’t Really Mean Anything Until He Shows You Something

It Doesn’t Really Mean Anything Until He Shows You Something

Sometimes we women will give men the benefit of the doubt and trust their words way too soon — even before the guy makes good on that word. One thing I have learned (the hard way) is that a person’s word means little to nothing without […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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The Alcohol’s Playing Tricks on You: Drinking on a Date Can Fool You Into Believing There’s a Bond There

The Alcohol’s Playing Tricks on You: Drinking on a Date Can Fool You Into Believing There’s a Bond There

You’re out on your second, maybe third date with a guy that you really like. You’ve had a few drinks — maybe more. You’re having a wonderful time and the endorphins are flowing. You suddenly get the feeling that this guy might actually be the one for you. Finally! It feels like you’ve made a special connection…

Wine on a Date
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So you sleep with him. The morning after you feel a bit awkward but kiss your goodbyes feeling as if things will continue to go on as they have been.

A day goes by… No call or text. A few more days go by… still nothing. Over a week has passed and the guy you thought you had such a great connection with hasn’t even bothered to text you to say “hi” after sleeping with you.

Blame it On the Alcohol?
In my book Let Him Chase You, I am adamant about waiting until a bond has formed between you and a guy before being intimate IF you want the relationship to go somewhere. That bond could be a real friendship or a special connection through an experience (you guys went through something tough together). Some women choose to wait until the bond of marriage. The bottom line is, if you don’t have that bond with someone first you are at a high risk of becoming a victim in the scenario mentioned earlier.

Alcohol can make you falsely think you have a connection with someone when you actually don’t. It removes your inhibitions and makes you feel as if you’re having the time of your life. It also gives you those “beer goggles” that causes any guy to look really good. But once the drink has worn off and the deed is done, you know that you’ve probably made a big mistake.

The Solution
The solution is simple. Be careful when drinking alcohol on a date with someone you’re just getting to know. Set a firm limit on the number of drinks you’ll have (no more than two) so that you’ll have a clear head the whole time and not be swayed by the extra dopamine being released into your brain when you drink alcohol. You should be sober and certain when and if you decide that it’s time to be intimate with a guy that you’re dating.

Love Lynn

 

 

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Let Him Chase YOU: Sometimes It’s Not Meant to Be… But We Women Force It Anyway!

Let Him Chase YOU: Sometimes It’s Not Meant to Be… But We Women Force It Anyway!

In her amazing book The Power, Rhonda Byrne tells the story of a woman who envisioned having a white Calla Lily in her hand. When she went to a friend’s dinner party there on the table was a vase full of white Calla Lilies. But […]

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Relax, Relate, Release Your Way to Better Dating & Relationships

Relax, Relate, Release Your Way to Better Dating & Relationships

There was a classic scene in one of my favorite television shows from the 90s called It’s a Different World. In it, the main character Whitley Gilbert (played by actress Jasmine Guy) was in a counseling session with a therapist played by actress Debbie Allen. […]

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New Book: Survive, Live or Thrive? by L. Lynn Gilliard

New Book:

Survive, Live or Thrive?

by L. Lynn Gilliard

Simple Life Tips for Those Who Feel Stuck in a Rut

This is a guide for those who feel that they may be stuck in a rut in one or more areas of their life, including:

    – pursuing your dreams
– making good money
– dating and love relationships
– family relationships
– self-love

Though the book is specifically targeted for women who are experiencing challenges in their lives, the concepts apply to everyone. Fueled by the idea that life is meant to be easy and enjoyable, it is loaded with stories, blog posts from Lynn’s websites and other inspirations and thoughts to help propel you to the ultimate goal: THRIVING in every area of your life.

Amazon Paperback AVAILABLE NOW

Audio version – Coming soon

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Men Do Want to Know That You’re Interested

Men Do Want to Know That You’re Interested

A lot of women (myself included) believe that when you first meet a guy, playing hard to get is the right way to go. That may be true to a certain extent, but not to the point of indifference (not answering messages, acting as if […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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