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Eve’s Story

Eve’s Story

From Let Him Chase You by Lynn Gilliard 15 days have gone by since their first date. 3 days have gone by since he last called or texted her. 7 days have gone by since he last set up a date with her. And it […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Things That Make You Feel Better When You’re Feeling a Little Down

Things That Make You Feel Better When You’re Feeling a Little Down

Get Clean or Take A Hot Bath If Possible One of the symptoms of depression is that you stop caring about getting clean, taking baths or taking showers on a regular basis. Sometimes having the dirt or grime of the previous day can hold you […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

The Power of Purpose | Life Quotes for Women

The Power of Purpose | Life Quotes for Women

There are probably countless articles on the power of purpose, because it is a universal truth. But I think it’s worthwhile to bring it up again, especially at a time when a lot of people are stressed out, depressed, and losing hope. Maybe this reminder about why it’s important to have a purpose, and life quotes for women will help inspire you.

I believe the cause of a lot of depression is the loss of a sense of purpose and interest in life. When you lose someone you really care about or have any other type of major loss, it starts to make you wonder whether you have a purpose for being here anymore.

Here are a few reasons why it’s so important to have a purpose in life, large or small. And it doesn’t matter if the people around you or who you know, including family and friends do not understand why you are doing what you are doing. The point is that you have to see the purpose in it and find some sense of joy there.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. – Viktor Frankl

A Purpose Gets You Up and Moving Around in the Morning

“All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” – Earl Nightingale

When you’re feeling low, hopeless, and purposeless, you might find it difficult to drag yourself out of the bed in the morning and do anything at all. One benefit of having a purpose is that it motivates you to wake up each day, earlier and earlier, and get to work. You might even want to start doing some of the things you loved to do in the past, whether it’s yoga, playing an instrument, dancing, singing, or writing.

A Purpose Can Help and Inspire Others

“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” – Maya Angelou

“If you see someone without a smile today, give ‘em yours.” – Dolly Parton

When others see you rebound from a difficult situation, whether it’s the loss of a job, the ending of a marriage, grieving a loved one, or recovering from a mental health issue, it is inspirational for them. They might be dealing with a similar problem, quietly, and need help. When you find a purpose, even if it’s just telling your story, or giving a testimony, it could be just the thing that someone needs to get up and make something happen in their own lives. There is so much power in purpose.

A Purpose Can Make You Money in the Short and Long Run

“Money is usually attracted, not pursued.” – Jim Rohn

After a while, you may find that pursuing your purpose could become a way to generate a new form of income. For example, if you find a purpose in knitting socks or mittens, or crafting, you might start to think about how you can sell them at flea markets or online. You might even find that your purpose has led you to discover what you are really good at, and how you can add special value to the world.

A Purpose Keeps Your Mind Occupied

“If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” – Vincent Van Gogh

There are a number of passages about the uselessness of having an idle mind and wandering aimlessly through life. When you have a sense of purpose, you are always thinking about new things, coming up with ideas, and seeking knowledge.

A Purpose Helps Open You Up to the Beauty of Life

“Perhaps the single most important ingredient in all of life for achieving happiness and fulfillment: Purpose” – Harvey Volson

Purpose helps open you up to the beautiful things around you. The sun shining brightly, the leaves rustling in a gentle wind, the ocean waves coming to shore, and the kind people you encounter each day. It may be because knowing that you have something to do, and something important to think about puts you in a different energy field where you can once again appreciate beauty.

Think about it. What gives you and your life a sense of purpose? When my mother, and a number of other people I cared about a lot passed, I felt that I lost my purpose — being there for them and loving them. But with help from my grief group, and people who still care about me, I am learning to adjust. I feel that I may be coming back into my own sense of having a purpose that is mostly focused on me and my own needs at the moment. It isn’t always easy, and it takes some time, but it can happen if you stay as focused and positive as possible.

Consider these life quotes for women and how exploring the power of purpose can be life changing for you and others around you. As desperate, lonely, and hopeless you may feel, there is always a possibility that with time you can repurpose your life and find something that interests you again.



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





The Transition Back to Love, Togetherness, and Decency

I came of age in the 90s and early 00s which I am very thankful for. We used to have parties, some of them we called “sessions” and had a great time enjoying each other’s company. We built bonds and friendships. We “talked” and got […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

11 Tips for Getting Through the Pandemic

11 Tips for Getting Through the Pandemic

I was scrunched up in the driver’s seat of my car, in the parking garage of the hospital where my mother was being treated. They only charged $8 if you stayed until midnight, so I stayed in the garage, waiting, just in case. Thankfully, the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Staying Focused These Days

Staying Focused These Days

Thoughts from My Friend Lauren

At a time when we are dealing with a lot of chaos and confusion in the world, it may help to hear about how others are managing things. I have been dealing with a barrage of concerns, all at the same time, including social isolation due to the pandemic of 2020, family dramas, and numerous other issues. It takes a lot to keep it together. I think about how other people are managing.

This is a guest post written by Lauren Keslow, a dear friend of mine. You might be able to relate to some of her words. Love Lynn

With all of the things going on in the world at the moment, it’s very difficult to stay focused these days. I live alone, and I’m very grateful to have a safe space to create and just be. I’m going back to work soon, so it will be good have a consistent schedule again.

Most of the people I miss at the moment are in California, where my family lives, and I’m living on the east coast. It’s been such a great experience living on the east coast, because I’ve learned a lot about myself, and having the ability to survive no matter what. I’ve met some amazing people and it’s been challenging and interesting at times.

I miss my family, and I would like to visit them soon, hopefully at the end of summer. I also miss some friends, because like millions of other people, I’ve been spending my days at home. Some days are good and I feel really productive and creative, and other days I feel lonely and I want to run away from everything. 

Something enlightening I’ve learned this past year is my owning my resilience. And also knowing that the ability to love ourselves is a journey and a continual process. I’ve had a difficult time battling negative thoughts and ongoing negative thought patterns simply because I’ve had to do that on my own.

We have to learn to combat those thoughts on our own, and no one teaches them to us. Searching for positive media and encouragement from ourselves is somewhat of a daily task, but it’s definitely feasible I think. 

Lauren Keslow is an esthetician and artist from California, currently residing on the East Coast. Follow her on social media: @LaurenKeslow or @styledbylaurenrose



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





Cultivating Good Friendships with Other Women

Cultivating Good Friendships with Other Women

I’ve been working on a book entitled Sing While You’re Single for the better part of a year. Only my closest confidants have known about it to date. In it, I’m providing encouragement and advice to women who have decided to remain single for the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

5 Simple Things That Can Make Your Life Easier

5 Simple Things That Can Make Your Life Easier

Wouldn’t it be nice if life could just be easier? Even just a little bit easier? You wake up, shower, wash your face, commence to doing your thing whatever that may be, and things seem to work out in the best way possible throughout the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

7 Keys to Getting Along with People

7 Keys to Getting Along with People

Do you find yourself butting heads with people often? It’s possible to have better relationships with the people around you. A little bit of emotional intelligence can go a long way. Keep reading.

For a long time after losing a very close friend who was my “person,” I withdrew from society and became a bit of a hermit. I stopped talking to people for a long time, and eventually I even stopped liking people in general. 

It took a long time for me to adjust my thinking and get back out into the world with a better attitude. I couldn’t sit around waiting for the world to come apologize to me and swoop me up in its arms. I had to be the one to actively make amends with the outer world by resolving things in my inner world.

These are some of the things I have learned along the way that have helped me to develop better relationships with people. 

1. Don’t Listen to Respond – Listen to Understand

If you’ve ever witnessed two people arguing, you’ll quickly realize that neither one is actually listening to what the other person is saying. That’s because they’re listening to respond instead of listening to understand. I believe Stephen Covey talked about this in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

What is the purpose of a conversation if not to come to some sort of resolution at its conclusion? A conversation will be so much more productive if you listen to understand.

Be the more enlightened person the next time you find yourself in a heated discussion with someone and employ this practice. Be quiet, fold your hands in front of you, let the other person talk, and really hear what he or she is saying. Let them fully express themselves. Ask questions for clarification of their points. You’ll find that they start to calm down as they notice that you are actually hearing them!

Tell them you appreciate their side and now you understand their side of things more clearly (even if you still disagree). Then, once they are finished, you can tell your side calmly and seek understanding from them.

Most people just want to be heard. They are angry and frustrated because they feel that no one really listens to them. Making them feel heard will make them feel better not just about themselves but also about YOU. 

People want to feel acknowledged, like they exist and their opinions matter.

You want to know one of my biggest pet peeves? When I walk into an empty business and the clerk or owner doesn’t bother to acknowledge my presence as I stand there waiting. Nowadays, if this happens, I quietly walk right back out of the door. If I’m going spend my resources to support a business, the very least the business owner can do is communicate and acknowledge me to say “hello, I’ll be right with you.”

There’s a beautiful quote from Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

2. Look in the Other Person’s Eyes When You’re Talking to Them

The best way to tell if someone is genuine is to look into their eyes when you are speaking with them. If they can hold a gaze with you and you feel comfortable in it, that is a good sign. If the other person’s eyes dart away often or you feel uncomfortable under their gaze, that’s a possible sign that you should keep them at arm’s length (or further). Listen to your intuition.

On the flip side, when you look into someone’s eyes when you’re talking to them it lets them know that you are an upstanding individual who is fully engaged in the conversation. You can send non-verbal reassurances by simply locking eyes with another person.

Also, please remember to turn off your cellphone when having an important conversation with someone so that your eyes won’t wander. It matters.

3. Care About What the Other Person Cares About (If Only for a Moment)

Develop a genuine sense of care for what other people care about. It may not be particularly what you value, have an interest in, or care for, but it matters to them. And if the other person matters to you (even for a fleeting moment) let them indulge in a moment of conversation about that topic. They will cherish you for that. For instance, when talking to a grandmother, ask her about her grandkids and watch as her face lights up. Even if you can’t relate, you are showing that you care. People appreciate this.

4. Take Care of Yourself

The way you take care of yourself will have an effect on how well you relate with others. When you feel good about yourself, others can tell. The positive energy emanates from you. You start to glow.

Having that good energy starts with taking good care of yourself. Staying clean and smelling fresh. Making sure your hair and nails look good. Eating healthy whole foods and smoothies that make you feel good, happy, and energetic.

Also, when you like yourself, people tend to like you too.

5. The Occasional Thoughtful Gift

Attempting to buy someone’s love or friendship isn’t ever a good idea, but giving an occasional thoughtful gift can move mountains. For example, I have a buddy in just about every store that I frequent. I’ll occasionally bring them a health drink, water, or snack from my car because I know they’ll be on their feet all day. When going to the office, I would bring my favorite coworker a treat. These are inexpensive things that can really make a difference in someone’s day. It’s nice to know that someone has been thinking about you.

Keep in mind that some people don’t like to receive gifts because they will feel some sort of obligation to give something back, which is another reason why it’s best to not spend a lot of money. There’s no need to go all out—small things matter.

6. Respond and Check In

One of the most important ways that you can establish and maintain a strong relationship with another person is to stay in regular contact with them.

Before the internet and smartphones took over, I remember that my friends and I stayed in constant contact, like every day. We hung out a lot, laughed, and enjoyed each other’s company.

Now it seems like a strain for someone to send an “ok” text message back!

Can we begin to change that, one relationship at a time? Make an effort to reach out to someone you care about or a new friend you just met and just say “hey, how are you?” I believe that checking in at least a couple of times per week is key to human connection.

And when someone reaches out to you, don’t ignore them. Take the three seconds to respond, if only to say, “I’m good” or “I’m busy right now but I’ll get back to you.” It shows a level of respect and acknowledgement that I believe a lot of people are craving in today’s world.

Understand that a lot of people are scared and they’re hurting. Sometimes all it takes is one positive text message to change their day. If you want to get along better with people, be there for them when they need you the most—even in the smallest of ways.

7. Deal with People as They Are (Or Don’t)

One thing that I have been learning (and that I am still working on resolving within myself) is that people are who they are—especially when they reach a certain age. You are not going to change them. As Dr. Angelou said, “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

So that person you know who is very selfish and only thinks of his or her own needs. Or that person who tosses out insults any chance she or he gets. Or that person who complains a lot. Understand that that is who they are, and you’ll either have to deal with them as they are or remove them from your life. 

Understand that not everyone thinks and behaves as you would. People are raised differently and have varied life experiences that have made them into the adults they are now. You’ll find a lot of peace once you begin to accept this truth.

Hopefully these 7 keys to getting along with people will help you improve your relationships with the people around you, whether they are people you know or people you meet when you’re out and about. There’s a general rule of thumb that will always ring true for relating with people: treat others how you would want to be treated.

In other words, don’t be a jerk.


Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide for women entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth. 



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Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





Who Is Your Friend and Who Is Just an Acquaintance?

What is the difference between a friend and an acquaintance or associate? It’s a question that has come up on my social media timeline several times, so I felt it may be of value to write a bit more about this subject. Understanding the answer […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.