I am a strong believer in soul mates — mostly because I believe I have met one of mine. My definition of a soul mate is someone who you can experience the ultimate feeling of love with in life. A true partner.

There are people that you meet who you just instantly click with and develop a bond very quickly. Nothing can stop you from being together. This is why I say that when true (mutual) love calls, you can’t really stop it from happening. It’s going to happen, eventually.

So knowing this, there is no need to worry and fret about the various guys that may come into your life. If they are meant to be there, they will be. There will be a knowing that you can’t really explain with words. They’re going to end up in your life, in some capacity, no matter what.

People who force relationships to happen with people who they don’t have a real connection with usually end up very unhappy.  Sooner or later it ends and they can’t understand what happened.

True love is easy going. It’s relaxed. It doesn’t hurt. It feels so good. There’s that KNOWING — you just know that everything is going to be fine with this person. It might happen with someone you would never picture yourself with, but you meet, you connect and you become inseparable.

So don’t feel bad when you meet a guy and it doesn’t work out. Brush him aside and keep experiencing life. Keep your focus on the type of guy you want in your life who is just for you — not just based on looks or superficial stuff, but that undeniable connection. You never know when you might attract someone who’s just right for you.

Love Lynn

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.