Have you ever met a new guy who you were interested in and got a feeling of déjà vu? He talks, walks, and has the same mannerisms or behaviors as another guy you’ve known before. He may even look like the guy you dated in the past. Bottomline you’ve met this guy before, just in a different body.
If this happens to you a lot, that may be because you are unconsciously sending off signals to attract the same type of guy into your life time and time again.
This happens a lot to women who go from one abusive relationship to the next.
There’s a theory that says we continually entertain the same types of men because we are trying to make it right with that other guy from the past. Only problem is, it usually doesn’t get better — history just repeats itself and you get hurt again.
So as much as you swear it will be different this time, you’ll most likely do and say the same things with this guy as you did with the other. You will likely fall into all of the same traps because as humans we tend to be creatures of habit.
So once you realize that you’ve dated the same type of guy before, the next move is on you. Will you continue to date this guy (knowing that you may be trying to make it right with that guy from your past) and risk being hurt again? Or will you take control over the situation this time and say no thanks to repeating history?
The choice is on you — whichever one you make, keep these thoughts in mind.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.