So you believed you had such a great connection with the guy you were seeing that on the first or second date you decided to sleep with him. You just KNEW that he was going to want to stay in touch and keep building with you, because you were getting along so well.
But then days and weeks went by and he wasn’t calling or texting you anymore. Soon enough you realized that the “chase” was off and the tables turned. Now you’re feeling like you need to do some chasing.
Deep inside your mind you’re thinking, “doesn’t he know how great I am! It’s his loss!”
And all of that may be true. You might be the best catch a man could ever dream of — a beautiful, patient, understanding and supportive beautiful woman who would make the perfect wife or girlfriend…
But he doesn’t know that. Certainly not after a date or two.
You know that you’re a really great person, but all he knows is that you look nice in a dress and heels. He’s still a stranger after one, two or even three dates. That’s why it’s so important that you allow plenty of time to get to know a guy (and for him to get to know you) before you sleep with him. Getting you into bed is his main aim in dating you (at least at first) so the quicker he achieves that the quicker he can move onto his next “conquest.”
Think about it — you’ve known some of your family members and so-called friends for decades and they still don’t know how great of a person you are, right!? So why would you assume that a guy you just met a few weeks ago would be able to recognize your awesome and unique qualities?
You ARE great — no doubt about that. But if you want to be both loved AND respected for the awesome person you are, don’t trust someone you just met with your heart and your body.
Take your time love, there is no rush.
Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.