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7 Keys to Getting Along with People

7 Keys to Getting Along with People

Do you find yourself butting heads with people often? It’s possible to have better relationships with the people around you. A little bit of emotional intelligence can go a long way. Keep reading. For a long time after losing a very close friend who was […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Who Is Your Friend and Who Is Just an Acquaintance?

What is the difference between a friend and an acquaintance or associate? It’s a question that has come up on my social media timeline several times, so I felt it may be of value to write a bit more about this subject. Understanding the answer […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Eve’s Story

Eve’s Story

From Let Him Chase You by Lynn Gilliard

15 days have gone by since their first date. 3 days have gone by since he last called or texted her. 7 days have gone by since he last set up a date with her.

And it just so happens that 7 days have gone by since they were intimate for the first time.

Finally, on the 8th day of sitting by quietly waiting for a date invitation, Eve decides to break down and call him.

“I just don’t think I’m ready for anything serious right now. I’m not ready to date (insert other excuse),” Thomas says when she asks him what’s going on. “We can still hang out sometimes though.”

Eve and Thomas have sex a couple more times — that’s what he really meant by “hanging out” after all. Then he completely “ghosts” her. No replies, no contact.

5 weeks later Eve finds out through Facebook that Thomas is “in a relationship” with another girl he just met.

Why did Thomas make the other girl his girlfriend after a short period of time but only thought Eve was fit to be his “friend with benefits?”

Read or listen to Let Him Chase You to find out why, and how you can avoid being treated like Eve in the future.

Love Lynn



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





11 Things Someone Should Have Told You (For Women)

11 Things Someone Should Have Told You (For Women)

They say that hindsight is 20/20, meaning that if you could go back in time and change some of the decisions you’ve made in the past using the information you have today you probably would. But when you’re in the thick of a situation, things […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Can We Stop Lying to Young Girls and Women?

Can We Stop Lying to Young Girls and Women?

Celebrities, reality stars, social influencers, and everyday women do young girls a disservice by pretending that their relationships are “perfect.” Tell them the truth about life and relationships so that they can make better choices. Recently a popular reality television personality from a show that […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

“Dueling Wills” and Self-Sabotage

“Dueling Wills” and Self-Sabotage

Do you ever feel like you’re fighting with yourself? Is self-sabotage the real reason why you’re not where you want to be in life?

So there I was. Vegetables and fruit spread all over my kitchen table on a bright and sunny Saturday afternoon. I was chopping up a huge head of organic Kale, cucumbers, ginger, celery and more ingredients to add to my healthy fresh homemade green juice. It is full of vitamins and antioxidants that give me a major boost during the day.

Then I reached over and grabbed my bottle of vodka to take a shot.

As I grabbed the vodka bottle, I immediately recognized the ridiculousness of the scene. If someone else had been there they would have laughed. On one hand I’m working hard to make a drink that will keep me energetic, and with the other hand I’m drinking something that will make me want to go to sleep soon.

Do you ever feel like you’re fighting with yourself? That something within is inspiring you to do productive things while another is convincing you to do things that will sabotage your progress and motivation?

The Will to Fail vs The Will to Succeed

Dorothea Brande wrote a book in the 1930s called Wake Up and Live. In it she discussed what she called “the will to fail.” She recognized that the reason many people don’t get to where they really want to be is that they ultimately submit to their will to fail. It’s that voice or compulsion within that causes you to make poor choices that sabotage your chances of success and progress.

Dueling Wills - Self-SabotageThe will to fail may also be why we women often choose the wrong types of men for dating and relationships. We know deep down that they are going to hurt us, but still go down that path, hoping for the best. And we often do it over and over and over again. That will to fail tells us that things will work out differently if we keep doing the same thing. But doing the same thing while expecting different results is the definition of INSANITY, as Albert Einstein told us.

If a good guy presents himself to us, and shows us how we ought to be treated, that self-sabotaging side may try to push him away. Because getting with a guy who will respect you, love you, make a good husband, and be a good father to your future kids would be too much like right.

Where Does the Will to Fail (Self-Sabotage) Come From?

Maybe the will to fail comes from a childhood experience that taught you that you aren’t worthy of happiness and success. Or maybe an abusive relationship that tore down your self-esteem. Maybe you had a “friend” who constantly belittled you and made you feel smaller so that she could feel bigger. Maybe the will to fail is something that is just ingrained in all of us from birth. I don’t really know.

At the same time, I do believe that the truest part of you, the one that knows your potential (the will to succeed), is still fighting on your behalf. She whispers the right answers to you in your quiet moments. She helps you get back on track when you’re off the rails. She may be embattled and worn out, but she’s still there and still fighting for you.

Love Lynn

 

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Relationship Advice: Change Your Dating Pool

Relationship Advice: Change Your Dating Pool

Have you ever heard the phrase “if you keep doing the same thing you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting the same results?” Or “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results?” Well that advice certainly applies to love, relationships […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Knowing Your Worth As a Woman

Knowing Your Worth As a Woman

Right before writing this blog post, I was watching a TV show where a woman admitted that her husband wakes up, first thing in the morning, and says to her, “*EXPLETIVE that begins with a B*, where are my cigarettes?” Instead of putting him in […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

The Problem with “How to Keep a Man Happy” Advice

The Problem with “How to Keep a Man Happy” Advice

Some relationship advice columns (often offered by men if you’ll notice) tell women how they can make men happy or be more attractive to men to keep them around. But there are a few problems with this idea that women have to be aware of.

You Can’t MAKE Someone Else Happy
We all have free will. We all have the power of choice. So you as one person cannot MAKE another person happy. Their happiness is completely up to them.

You may think that making a brand new sandwich for a man every day will keep him happy. One day, he’s going to tire of sandwiches altogether and want steak everyday. Some women think that they have to keep their hair long to keep a man — then one day he sees a lovely short-haired woman and is bored with long hair. You may think that learning new sexual tricks will keep him happy. That will get old soon too. A person who is happy with you just IS. You don’t have to go out of your way to convince him of anything.

You’re Chasing Him
When you are actively seeking ways to make a man happy, that means that YOU are the chaser. You are giving him the idea that he is the sole prize to be won. He can sit back and allow you to serve him as if you are his “peasant girl.” If you are confident in your essence as a woman of worth then you would feel no need to go out of your way to put a man and his needs above your own. The same is true for anyone else in your life who demands too much of you.

It Ignores Your Need for Happiness
When you focus your life and relationship around how to keep a man happy, you forget one important thing: your own happiness. Who is going out of their way to make you happy as a woman?

So before you listen to advice on how to keep a man happy, meditate on these three points. You matter and you deserve the best — even if that means YOU are the one who has to give YOU the best.

Keep your focus on ensuring that you are happy and fulfilled.

Love Lynn

 

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Beware the “Rake” Personality – He Drives Women Crazy (The Art of Seduction)

Beware the “Rake” Personality – He Drives Women Crazy (The Art of Seduction)

I like the book The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene because it warns both women and men about people who may be trying to take advantage of them. Greene is also the author of The 48 Laws of Power, which I believe is another […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.