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How One Small Change Can Make All the Difference

I have been writing, creating, and sorting my groceries on the same table for several years now. Recently, I decided to move the table by about 3 feet from the wall so that I can do clearer video conferences. The result was astounding. By simply […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Love Is About Action Not Just Words

Have you ever had someone constantly tell you that they love you, but their actions were completely different? They almost never contact you. When you need them they disappear. They are generally not that interested in you until they need you. That’s not love. And […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

A Love Letter from You to… You

A Love Letter from You to… You

It’s been a while since I checked in with you…

A special love letter for women who are going through a difficult time during the pandemic.


Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





Things That Make You Feel Better When You’re Feeling a Little Down

Things That Make You Feel Better When You’re Feeling a Little Down

Get Clean or Take A Hot Bath If Possible One of the symptoms of depression is that you stop caring about getting clean, taking baths or taking showers on a regular basis. Sometimes having the dirt or grime of the previous day can hold you […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

The Power of Purpose | Life Quotes for Women

The Power of Purpose | Life Quotes for Women

There are probably countless articles on the power of purpose, because it is a universal truth. But I think it’s worthwhile to bring it up again, especially at a time when a lot of people are stressed out, depressed, and losing hope. Maybe this reminder […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

The Transition Back to Love, Togetherness, and Decency

I came of age in the 90s and early 00s which I am very thankful for. We used to have parties, some of them we called “sessions” and had a great time enjoying each other’s company. We built bonds and friendships. We “talked” and got to know each other before getting serious. We went on actual dates. We didn’t have to prove anything to social media to have fun and feel loved. We also had really good music and a beautiful culture.

It was exciting and relaxing and everyone just showed love towards each other. I believe that some things are so precious. Like togetherness, love, and decency. Understanding how valuable other good people are, and that you should be good to others. 

Because I think many people are realizing how important it is to have other decent people to talk to and heal with at this crucial time.

Social Media

I think that maybe the prevalence of social media has been a huge culprit in how disconnected we have become as a society. People are constantly looking at their phones and not looking at, responding to, or showing love to the people who are right there in the room. The people who could care about you and/or who you should care about. And despite people’s phone addictions, you are still lucky if you can get a text back! 

Some are so concerned about what Twitter or Instagram folks are talking about, but too busy to respond to a family member or friend who is going through tough times. And somehow, we have normalized this behavior.

Hurt People Hurt People (Or At Least Try To)

Let’s be clear. A lot of people are miserable and hurt. Mean and selfish. I have witnessed people throw their trash out the window of their cars as if the world is their trash can. I have had the displeasure of watching how white supremacists act when they don’t get their way. It was displayed on my TV like it was a fictional program. I’ve seen people speeding like they have no sense when they really don’t even have anywhere important to go. Speeding up to stop signs.

I have seen people refuse to wear a mask properly amidst a pandemic that has cost a half a million lives. I have seen people treat healthcare workers like crap, even the ones who truly go above and beyond to help. Yes, it’s their job. They are heroines and heros, yet they are still human. They are people and they go through difficult things just like anyone else.

Some people want to spread their negativity to other people because they are terrified of being alone. Misery loves company. They can’t imagine the possibility of simply being a good person to others, maybe because they’ve never seen it in childhood and beyond. 

But we cannot let that energy consume us. We have to be better than that.

If you can, watch the movie Ink with a close eye. Understand the message about negative people who refuse to treat others with respect and love.

Getting Better

It’s not hopeless. There is hope for a brighter day. But it’s up to us to make things better. We must transition back to love, togetherness, and decency. Simple things like caring about one another. Responding when people call, especially if they are experiencing difficulties in life. Looking after Mother Nature and the environment in whatever way we can. Reading inspiring books, podcasts, and other media that will encourage us and help us as well as the world in general.

This is important and this is how we can get through this time.

Love Lynn



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





11 Tips for Getting Through the Pandemic

11 Tips for Getting Through the Pandemic

I was scrunched up in the driver’s seat of my car, in the parking garage of the hospital where my mother was being treated. They only charged $8 if you stayed until midnight, so I stayed in the garage, waiting, just in case. Thankfully, the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Staying Focused These Days

Staying Focused These Days

Thoughts from My Friend Lauren At a time when we are dealing with a lot of chaos and confusion in the world, it may help to hear about how others are managing things. I have been dealing with a barrage of concerns, all at the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.

Cultivating Good Friendships with Other Women

Cultivating Good Friendships with Other Women

I’ve been working on a book entitled Sing While You’re Single for the better part of a year. Only my closest confidants have known about it to date. In it, I’m providing encouragement and advice to women who have decided to remain single for the time being due to the current climate in the dating world. This book is for women who haven’t given up on the possibility of having romantic love in their lives, but for now they are taking it slow and working on themselves.

One of the bits of advice I provide is that when you are a single woman you should seek to cultivate at least one to two solid friendships with other women. Having a good friend to call on is like having an ice-cold drink of water on a sweltering hot day. We all need companionship to some degree.

But it’s not always easy to meet a good real friend in the age of social media and with so many distractions around us. So, here’s some advice for how you can cultivate good friendships for yourself. It may take some time, but it is worth it.

Know the Difference Between Friends and Acquaintances

In my blog, I’ve discussed the difference between friends and acquaintances. To state it briefly, acquaintances are just people you know and who you really cannot count on in a time of need. They barely answer text messages let alone call you when you’re in need of someone to talk to. Friends are the ones who come through for you when it matters the most. Know the difference, and things will become clearer. You probably won’t be so upset when people let you down, because you know who they are to you.

Work on YOU First

One of the first steps in cultivating good friendships is to take a good long look at yourself. To have a good friend you have to be a good friend. So, if you have some latent or obvious issues that could be a hindrance to you meeting, relating, and getting along with others, get those issues under control with the help of a therapist, reading books like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and making a conscious effort to change those behaviors or thoughts.

For example, if you are a complainer, who always focuses on the negative side of things, understand that this is something that other people just don’t like to be around! No one likes a complainer, or someone who is always throwing a pity party for themselves. It’s time to start thinking, talking, and acting differently. Be confident. Be positive and look at the beautiful things around you. As Einstein suggested, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result.

The Best Places to Meet Friends

Where you meet people says a lot about their personalities, ambitions, thoughts, and goals in life. In my opinion one of the best places to meet new friends is at work. People at your job are on a similar playing field as you and tend to have similar interests and goals in life. 

Here are a few other good places to meet potentially good, long-term friends who care about you and themselves:

  • Volunteer activities
  • Group therapy (with women who are struggling with the same issues you are)
  • Small business networking affairs.
  • Talking to your neighbors (of all ages) who are single women, who you’ve lived around for a long time.
  • Attending organizing events with similarly minded women who care about their communities and neighborhoods.

Online meetup groups can be fun to attend, but in my experience the people who go have fleeting, flaky personalities. Generally, I think, meeting people online will likely be a short-term experience. Look to meet new people to connect with in person when you can—look in their eyes, feel their energy, and make smart choices accordingly.

It is possible to cultivate good friendships with other women, but you have to be willing to work on yourself and possibly adjust the way that you relate to others.

Again, remember that if what you’ve been doing in the past hasn’t worked, it may be time to do something different.

Love Lynn

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide for women entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth. 


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Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.





5 Simple Things That Can Make Your Life Easier

5 Simple Things That Can Make Your Life Easier

Wouldn’t it be nice if life could just be easier? Even just a little bit easier? You wake up, shower, wash your face, commence to doing your thing whatever that may be, and things seem to work out in the best way possible throughout the […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book Sing While You’re Single offers advice to women who want to remain single for the time being while still maintaining their belief in the power and possibility of love.