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Eve’s Story

Eve’s Story

From Let Him Chase You by Lynn Gilliard 15 days have gone by since their first date. 3 days have gone by since he last called or texted her. 7 days have gone by since he last set up a date with her. And it […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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11 Things Someone Should Have Told You (For Women)

11 Things Someone Should Have Told You (For Women)

They say that hindsight is 20/20, meaning that if you could go back in time and change some of the decisions you’ve made in the past using the information you have today you probably would. But when you’re in the thick of a situation, things […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Can We Stop Lying to Young Girls and Women?

Can We Stop Lying to Young Girls and Women?

Celebrities, reality stars, social influencers, and everyday women do young girls a disservice by pretending that their relationships are “perfect.” Tell them the truth about life and relationships so that they can make better choices.

Recently a popular reality television personality from a show that I have really enjoyed over the years, came out to admit that her husband has been physically and emotionally abusing her for years.

The way that this couple presented their relationship on television from the start was as if they were meant to be. They were so in love — a match made in heaven. He was a “macho” guy and she was a hot-headed bad ass chick, but they somehow made it work. They got married and had a couple of kids. The perfect life. But in reality (according to her own statements) behind closed doors she was being threatened, spit on, thrown around, and harassed by her husband on a regular basis.

This reality star’s story is hardly the exception to the rule. Countless celebrities and personalities have revealed, after years of faking it on television and social media, that their relationships are a lot less than ideal. And that is putting it lightly. In the meanwhile, they’re essentially lying to the public — including the young girls and women who look up to them — about the realities of their relationships and what they’re enduring just to keep up with the illusion of a “perfect” union for TV.

I get it. Everyone wants their life and relationship to look perfect. It makes you feel superior to others and like you’re doing something right. But as a celebrity, a popular personality in the public eye, a social media influencer, or even just a mentor of sorts to the young girls in your life, you have a major impact on how young girls and women look at relationships. Also, what they feel about themselves.

In this particular celebrity’s case, she has spent 10 years letting her young fans think that her boyfriend/husband was a great guy who treated her like an absolute queen. Now, 10 years later she decides to reveal the truth. For 10 years her young fans have probably tried everything possible to get a guy just like that. I wonder how many of them found themselves in abusive relationships themselves, chasing that dream. Why? Because no one is telling them the truth about how things work in the real world.

For instance: A guy will put on his best behavior early in a relationship, but as soon as you start to see concerning signs (abuse, controlling behavior, intimidation), get out of there. The longer you stick around, trying to keep up appearances for others, the deeper you become entrenched in dysfunction and the harder it will be to leave the situation.

Another example: Things aren’t always what they seem on the surface. Don’t spend your life wishing for what other people have, because you never know what they’re really going through. Ever heard the saying, “be careful what you wish for because you just might get it?”

Tell Them the Truth

It would be great if we (the collective of women) could stop lying to young girls about the realities of relationships so that they can make better, more informed choices about the men they choose to allow into their lives in the future. We need to tell them the truth.

It would also be great if young girls and women started to recognize that the relationships they covet and try to mimic on television and social media are never as perfect as they’re portrayed.

Love Lynn



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
“Dueling Wills” and Self-Sabotage

“Dueling Wills” and Self-Sabotage

Do you ever feel like you’re fighting with yourself? Is self-sabotage the real reason why you’re not where you want to be in life? So there I was. Vegetables and fruit spread all over my kitchen table on a bright and sunny Saturday afternoon. I […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Relationship Advice: Change Your Dating Pool

Relationship Advice: Change Your Dating Pool

Have you ever heard the phrase “if you keep doing the same thing you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting the same results?” Or “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results?” Well that advice certainly applies to love, relationships […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Knowing Your Worth As a Woman

Knowing Your Worth As a Woman

Right before writing this blog post, I was watching a TV show where a woman admitted that her husband wakes up, first thing in the morning, and says to her, “*EXPLETIVE that begins with a B*, where are my cigarettes?” Instead of putting him in his place, she just calmly tells him where his cigarettes are so that he’ll leave her alone.

Hearing that type of thing is shocking to a woman like me, because I am at a place in my life where I know my worth. There’s no way on God’s green earth that I would allow a man or anyone for that matter to address me as “bitch” instead of my name, and I’m going to be fine with that.

Though this story goes along with what I want to discuss in this post, it’s not what inspired me to blog about knowing your worth. The recent story of popular singer is what inspired me to write about this.

This singer was in a relationship with a rapper who sang about doing drugs and disrespecting women as if it was the natural way of things. This man had multiple children by multiple women — none of whom he felt was worthy of marriage. He is the type of man who wasn’t trained on how to take care of and love a woman. After getting her pregnant, he allegedly cheated on her and they broke up.

Many women who find themselves in this type of situation choose to continue the same cycle over and over again with the same type of man. But this singer chose differently. She decided to date a man who respected her true worth as a woman. They chose to be celibate and get to know each other in other intimate ways, and as of today they are engaged to be married.

Now I don’t know these people. I don’t know if her new guy is really as great a guy as he is portrayed in public. But the glow on a woman’s face tells the whole story, and based on the glow that is now coming off of this particular singer, she made the right choice.

Here is the most important takeaway from the story. Before she could meet a man who knew her worth, SHE had to know her worth.

The woman from the television show I mentioned earlier doesn’t know her worth yet, which is why she has continued to endure that level of disrespect from her husband. And if she doesn’t learn and acknowledge her worth, she will end up with another man who will treat her the same exact way.

A Confident Woman
Knowing yourself means having confidence in your essence, value and power as a woman. I talk about this at length in my books Let Him Chase You and You Matter.

You have to have the type of confidence about yourself that overcomes any level of desperation and fear of being alone.

You have to have the type of confidence that makes it easy to not only drop a man who doesn’t respect your worth IMMEDIATELY, but also to FORGET about him just as quickly, continue to get out there, love life, and date if that’s what you want to do.

You have to have the type of confidence that actively attracts the right type of guys around you. The type of confidence about yourself that REPELS problematic men because they know they’re not in your league.

You have to have the type of confidence where you could be wearing a burlap sack and still know you look good. You know you don’t have to dress in less in order to attract attention.

When you have that level of confidence, men want to rise up to meet you where you are instead of trying to take you down. The men who prey on women who have low self-esteem won’t even try it with you.

Know Your Worth
If more women knew their worth, I believe the world would be a much better place for everyone. Everyone would do better and be better. Unfortunately a lot of women go into their senior years enduring pain and disrespect from their husbands, and that bad energy gets passed down from generation to generation.

Know that you matter, no matter what may be going on in your life. Keep that message close to your heart ALWAYS so that you won’t ever find yourself settling for something or someone who isn’t right for you.

Love Lynn

 



Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
The Problem with “How to Keep a Man Happy” Advice

The Problem with “How to Keep a Man Happy” Advice

Some relationship advice columns (often offered by men if you’ll notice) tell women how they can make men happy or be more attractive to men to keep them around. But there are a few problems with this idea that women have to be aware of. […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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Beware the “Rake” Personality – He Drives Women Crazy (The Art of Seduction)

Beware the “Rake” Personality – He Drives Women Crazy (The Art of Seduction)

I like the book The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene because it warns both women and men about people who may be trying to take advantage of them. Greene is also the author of The 48 Laws of Power, which I believe is another […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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First Comes LIKE: Dating Advice

First Comes LIKE: Dating Advice

“First comes love… Then comes marriage… Then comes Mary with a baby carriage.”

Do you remember that little childhood song? We would sing it to tease someone who had a crush on a boy. We’d also sing it when playing patty cake to keep up with the beat.

If you grew up believing in that song, you may have believed that every guy you meet who shows you attention will eventually be your husband and the father to your baby.

Zoosk has a new commercial that reveals the truth about dating with the simplest tagline ever: “First Comes Like.” The idea is that a relationship doesn’t start off with love — it takes time to develop into something real. You start off as friends who just like spending time with each other.

In my book Let Him Chase YOU I make the point that a special bond has to form between a woman and a man before a relationship blossoms. Before that, it’s just dating. It’s just fun. A lot of women make the mistake of sleeping with a guy before that bond forms, which is why they often find themselves dumped or ignored shortly thereafter.

So take Zoosk’s simple advice: first comes like. Take it slow and allow a bond to form between you and the guy you’re interested in. Don’t rush things, just relax.

And Let Him Chase YOU.

Love Lynn

 

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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First Impressions DO Matter

First Impressions DO Matter

Young woman’s OKCupid experiment highlights the different responses women get when they choose to put their sexuality on display over their personality. First impressions do matter. Today I read an article written by a beautiful young woman who decided to do an experiment on OKCupid. […]

Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Her latest book You Matter encourages women to know and understand their worth.                                                                
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